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Goodreads Giveaway of THE YEAR OF LOVING
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Goodreads Giveaway of THE YEAR OF LOVING

On October 19 starts a Goodreads giveaway for THE YEAR OF LOVING. Enter to win one of 5 Signed Copies!

Art gallerist Sarah Paige’s world is crumbling. One daughter barely speaks to her and the other is off the rails. Sarah is struggling to keep her gallery afloat in a tough market when she learns that her most beloved friend has cancer. In the midst of her second divorce, two men come into her life: an older man who offers companionship and stability and an exciting younger man whose life is as chaotic as hers.

Sarah’s courage, humor, and spirit strengthen her, but how much can she bear, and what sustains her when all else falls away?

The contest runs in the US and Canada and it runs from October 19 to November 5, 2016.

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The Year of Loving by Traci L. Slatton

The Year of Loving

by Traci L. Slatton

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Modern Masters: Sabin Howard, Sculptor, on Fox TV
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Modern Masters: Sabin Howard, Sculptor, on Fox TV

I am so delighted to announce that my husband, classical figurative sculptor Sabin Howard, was profiled on Fox Television in their beautiful Modern Masters series. Modern Masters: Sabin Howard, Sculptor aired on Friday, March 11.

Modern Masters: Sabin Howard

In this wonderful segment, Sabin relates the story of his origins and being influenced by the powerful and gorgeous architecture of Torino and Italy. He talks about how he dropped out of college and then decided, at age 19, that he wanted to go to art school. He laughs at how his parents, who are both PhDs, wanted him to go somewhere like Harvard. “That wasn’t going to go down,” he says.

He was filmed sculpting, showing his process of breaking the body into cubes. The camera pans over him drawing. He speaks of the importance of the figure, and how it shows us as we can be. “Art has the ability to transform and elevate your spirit,” he states.

The World War 1 Memorial also came up. “World War 1 is a war that needs to be remembered because it changed the course of history,” Sabin says. He talks about how the figures in his design concept are relational and taking care of each other–the glorification of the human spirit.

Watch the piece, it’s amazing!

Modern Masters: Sabin Howard

Latest on the HuffPo: The Phenomenon of Lashing Out
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Latest on the HuffPo: The Phenomenon of Lashing Out

Here’s my latest on the Huffington Post, an article about The Phenomenon of Lashing Out

Trolls, Harassers, Haters, and Shamers: The Phenomenon of Lashing Out

I promote my books. For one novel, I hired a publicist who turned out engaging press releases. She sent them to me for approval and then emailed them to every contact on her extensive list. She sent out dozens. That’s what I paid her to do and she was a responsible publicist.

A junior editor looked at one release, decided I thought I was better than other authors, and initiated a Twitter shaming campaign that lasted about eight hours.

It struck out of the blue. Suddenly my Twitter feed lit up with nasty tweets, many personal, directed at me. It was shocking and confusing. It took me a while to figure out what was going on. Then I did the best damage control I could.

I can only imagine how horrible a longer Twitter shame-barrage would have been. Eight hours was enough to leave me with a few weeks of mild PTSD. I never understood the point of the shaming episode. What pleasure did the junior editor and her cohorts take in such scathing nastiness? What did they hope to accomplish beyond making me feel badly? I certainly never felt that I was better than other authors, though I will balance that by saying that I have worked hard over the decades to write thousands of pages of prose. I take pride in whatever craftsmanship I accomplish.

A very different episode. I went to pick up my daughter at her bus stop. As a writer, I work out of a small home office. I seldom dress up for that. I brushed my teeth that morning and swiped on sun block–that was the extent of my ablutions. I trotted to the bus stop in my usual stinky yoga clothes.

At the bus stop waited an attractive young African American woman. I sidled up to her and casually chatted, the way parents do.

She suddenly snapped, “I’m not the nanny! I’m the mom!”

Given the current racial tensions, I must preface my remarks by saying that this was a bus stop for a private school in Manhattan. I am sure that this well-turned-out young woman had been mistaken for the nanny. Probably more than once. Few of the private schools here are as well integrated as one would hope. Most are putting honest effort into greater diversity.

On this particular occasion, this young woman correctly noted the calculation in my eyes. Then she incorrectly interpreted it. Yes, I certainly did look at her and make a judgment. But it wasn’t the one she projected onto me.

I was thinking, “Traci, look how nice she looks. You need to dress better. You don’t have to come to the bus stop looking like a schlub. For pete’s sake, woman, take twenty minutes to make yourself presentable.”

I think women of any race will relate to this self-criticism. But until the other mother spoke up, the issue of race had never occurred to me. It was about me looking dowdy.

At the time, I was surprised and flustered. I murmured something like “That’s what I thought.” I felt badly for this woman whose life experience had brought her to this point of assuming that another mom was judging her when I was only judging myself.

Another example. Now I confess to a certain tolerance for unconventional people. There are many worthy trapezoidal pegs; I don’t want to force them into square holes. Unfortunately, this attitude means that sometimes nutters slip inside my sphere. I did business with one such. My husband and a friend gleaned that this person was shaky; they warned me. I didn’t heed them. I should have, because when I made a decision this person didn’t like, they sent me dozens of crazed, threatening emails full of violent imagery. I blogged about this before, because I was helped by an organization called haltabuse.org that works to stop email harassment.

What these painful and bewildering episodes have in common is the phenomenon of projection. The Twitterers, the other mom, and the business fruitcake took something within themselves and projected it outward onto me. I knew this intellectually at the time, but it didn’t solace me. I had to work with myself to return to my center in the face of the onslaught. I think, for the Shamers and the Harasser, that’s what they wanted: to hurt me.

Obviously the mom felt that she was standing up for herself. Though she was projecting onto me, my interaction with her fits into a different category because she didn’t intend to cause harm. Nor did I feel hurt by her. I felt surprised, then I felt compassion.

Indeed, what continually surprises me about our culture now is how little compassion there is, and how widespread the phenomenon of lashing out has become. It often goes along with high self-righteous indignation that reeks of self-pleasuring. I have come to believe that self-righteous indignation is best enjoyed in private.

Recently my husband sculptor Sabin Howard came into the spotlight when he, with architect-in-training Joe Weishaar, won the WW1 Memorial design competition. Someone used social media to disparage Sabin, claiming that Sabin’s beautiful neoclassical works were “Nazi-like.”

The irony is that Sabin is at least one-quarter Jewish. His grandmother was a German Jew. His mother is Italian and I will never forget the dinner when Zio Carlo, upon hearing that I am Jewish, leaned over and whispered, “Ours is an Italian Jewish name. We are descended from Jews who were forcibly converted.”

One hater posted a video of Sabin sculpting in a friend’s studio as “proof” that Sabin’s work is Nazi-esque. But this studio belonged to a dear friend who happens to be gay and recently married to his long time partner. Since Sabin is famed for his male nudes, which are sublimely beautiful but not eroticized, we have, in our inner circle, many cherished gay friends. The Nazis would not have appreciated Sabin’s Jewish heritage nor his inclusiveness. Nor, I dare say, his Jewish wife.

I remain proud of Sabin’s neoclassicism. Beauty is beauty; we don’t have to allow a single ideal of beauty to languish as the province of murderous sociopaths. I wouldn’t give the Nazis that satisfaction.

Ultimately, I don’t want to give satisfaction to those who lash out, either. But it’s worth noting that negative projection causes pain. We are all human beings here, even if social media and email allow for depersonalization and anonymity. “If you prick us, do we not bleed?” Indeed we all do.

Phenomenon of Lashing Out

Independent Artists & Thinkers Thanksgiving Show by host Traci L. Slatton
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Independent Artists & Thinkers Thanksgiving Show by host Traci L. Slatton

I aired a short show on my BlogTalkRadio show Independent Artists & Thinkers in honor of Thanksgiving. I made a few announcements and offered words of gratitude. The show can be found here on BlogTalkRadio and here on Youtube.

Here’s part of my script:

I’d like to mention some of the wonderful guests who’ve been on the show, especially those who are affiliated with worthy projects.

Lori Belilove, the founder and Artistic Director of the Isadora Duncan Dance Foundation, was my very first guest. The Isadora Duncan Foundation is doing splendid work in, and I quote:

The mission of the Isadora Duncan Foundation is to extend the dream, dance, and indomitable spirit of the mother of modern dance, Isadora Duncan. IDDF’s mission is to:

  • Maintain the legacy of American modern dance pioneer Isadora Duncan through performances and residencies and archive her works as priceless jewels of American modern dance.
  • Create new choreography through resident performing troupe Lori Belilove & The Isadora Duncan Dance Company.
  • Reach future generations of dancers via educational outreach programs, designed for implementation in diverse underserved communities, that develop cultural appreciation, confidence, and encourage self-expression.

So please go online to Isadoraduncan.org to contribute to this worthy organization.

Educational Entrepreneur Tracy Gray was a guest on the show with some absolutely fascinating things to say. She heads up the Sankofa Global Project, which supports underrepresented students by introducing and supporting them as they venture into the fields of Science, Technology, Engineering, Art and Math. In this season of giving, please think seriously about donating to this worthy and important organization. You can find out more about them at sankofaglobalproject.com

Dr. Bill Bernet is a psychiatrist leading the way in educating the general public, mental health clinicians, forensic practitioners, attorneys, and judges regarding parental alienation. This is a very sad, devastating phenomenon and it’s a cause close to my heart. Dr. Bernet has founded the Parental Alienation Study Group for educational purposes and to develop and promote research on the causes, evaluation, and treatment of parental alienation. That can be found at pasg.info and it is also a not for profit corporation. I urge listeners to support the PASG, especially if you have been a targeted parent of if you know someone who has experienced this heart-breaking phenomenon.

Dr. Craig Childress is a licensed clinical psychologist in Pasadena, CA who has done some good work in this field, and his website can be found at drcraigchildressblog.com

Both of those websites, pasg.info and drcraigchildressblog.com contain a lot of information about parental alienation. Recently I came across a short blog post that explains it very well, also. The website is therecoveryexpert.com and the post was Narcissism and Parental Alienation Syndrome, and that post really does a good job of lucidly explaining the inauthentic attachment system that happens when one parent targets the other parent for alienation. That’s at http://therecoveryexpert.com/2015/11/narcissism-and-parental-alienation-syndrome/

I’d like to mention some of the terrific books written by guests of the show. Dr. Jane Ely is a master healer and counselor who’s written a most beautiful book, Coming into Balance; A Guide for Activating Your True Potential. I am going to say straightaway that my indie press Parvati Press published this book, and I published it because I believe in it whole-heartedly. Dr. Ely is also co-founder and Dean of the Peacemaker School, an international school dedicated to teaching Peacemaking, Energy Medicine, and Conflict Partnership. You can find out more about Dr. Ely at drjaneely.net .

My friend Komilla Sutton is luminary in the field of Vedic astrology and a former Bollywood actress with an incredible personal story as well as a deep, insightful understanding of the science of light. I recommend her books The Nakshatras: The Stars Beyond the Zodiac, The Essentials of Vedic Astrology, and The Lunar Nodes: Crisis and Redemption. You can find out more about Komilla at komilla.com

I mentioned some of the books written by guests of IA&T, including Mythological astrologer Lynn Bell’s books as well as psychotherapist Dave Richo’s beautiful books, THE POWER OF GRACE and HOW TO BE AN ADULT.

I also talked about my investigation into the work of Dr. Steven Greer, founder of the disclosure project.

I ended with a quote from The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche.

“The most essential thing in life is to establish an unafraid, heartfelt communication with others….”


Independent Artists & Thinkers

 

Latest HuffPo Piece: Review of Lee Grant’s Memoir
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Latest HuffPo Piece: Review of Lee Grant’s Memoir

A Review of Lee Grant’s Memoir is my latest piece on the Huffington Post.

Here’s how I begin the article:

Of late, meaning the last few years, coming to myself in the dark woods in the middle of my life, I read autobiographies of interesting women. They are my guides as I navigate a way that is lost only because it isn’t found yet—because I haven’t lived it. I read to see how these courageous souls made their way through the emptinesses and fullnesses that punctuate our journeys as mothers, wives, and people invested in their own careers.

Here’s a little more:

Along the way, Grant seems to have seized every adventure offered to her, displaying a wanton appetite for life at odds with her sometimes crippling stage fright and insecurity over her age. I was intrigued by the dissonance and heartened by it. I’ve long held that perfectionism is a virulent form of self-hatred. Grant’s openness about her frailties demonstrates the bedrock of self love that must have enabled her to endure the cruel devastation of being blacklisted when many McCarthy victims didn’t survive.

Find the piece here, and please do “like” it!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/traci-l-slatton/a-review-i-said-yes-to-ev_b_8037200.html

Review of Lee Grant's Memoir

Goodreads Giveaways: FALLEN, COLD LIGHT, and FAR SHORE
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Goodreads Giveaways: FALLEN, COLD LIGHT, and FAR SHORE

BLOOD SKY, Book 4 in the After series, will soon be published. In honor of its impending release, I am running three Goodreads giveaways, each for two copies of the book. So I will be giving away two copies of FALLEN (Book 1 of the After series), two copies of COLD LIGHT (Book 2 of the After series), and two copies of FAR SHORE (Book 3 of the After series). The giveaways will run from today through August 30, 2015. Good luck!

My author page at Goodreads can be found here

https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/1183442.Traci_L_Slatton

And the giveaways can be found on the giveaway page here

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Fallen by Traci L. Slatton

Fallen

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Giveaway ends August 30, 2015.

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Cold Light by Traci L. Slatton

 

Cold Light

 

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Far Shore by Traci L. Slatton

Far Shore

by Traci L. Slatton

Giveaway ends August 30, 2015.

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